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The 'but' looms larger than the 'every head is bowed' at the end of an evangelist's talk. We both go Moms at it again porn, then I chuckle, partly in sympathy for my anonymous, overlooked sister. Somehow, if you put the words 'nice,' 'Christian' and 'girl' in that sequence, they create a wet and unappealing shadow of the sum of their parts.
I'd certainly like to think I'm all those things separately, but I'd be gutted if I knew someone was using the three, in that order, to describe me. Being nice is good.
Being Christian, is good. Being a girl - well, what higher calling?
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I canvass another single male friend he's nice, by the way, and Christian. You'll notice, though, that throughout the options, the 'Christian' bit is non-negotiable.
The men I spoke to are genuinely interested in women with a spiritual element to their lives, who seek truth more doggedly than happiness, and who live according to principles more than whims. Yet somehow, once the term 'Christian' is applied to a woman, there is an automatic need to counteract the sense of safe, predictable, bland, sexless mediocrity which our culture has attributed to the word. So why is niceness so unappealing, even to a community which ought to prize kindness, goodness and self-control? I might not want to be a nice Christian girl, but I don't want to be a cynical Christian cow either.
I guess we're all looking for a person who can combine in themselves the essence of two of the Bible's most crucial commands - 'take the gospel to A diminutive girl entered the room ends of the earth' and 'go forth and multiply.
Perhaps we crave something from each other that goes beyond what is safe. The word 'Christian' originally referred to people who were a bit like Christ.
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So in its truest use, it ought to mean unpredictable, challenging, difficult to control, truthful, dangerous and Sports groupie stories. Part of me would like to complain about men's vicissitudes, their capriciousness when looking for a mate. But I can't talk. I'm looking for a testosterone-fuelled, Christian rogue. New user?
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